Margaret Alfieri

I had lunch with Pam. Pam lives in the same city where my son attends school. It made me feel old because I met Pam during my first senior year in college. (It took me five years to graduate. I had a lot of parties to squeeze in.) How did I get old enough to visit my friend and tell her about my son in college and his friend who goes to our old college?

I took our picture, but it made me think of all the pictures we've taken over the years.


This picture was taken outside our dorm at a party in the spring of my graduation in 1985. Pam had to stay for one more semester and Margaret had decided not to come back. You can see the sense of impending change in the picture. No one wanted to stay forever, but there was also loss in leaving.

Here we are at my wedding in 1986.

The back of this picture said 1988 in Buffalo. I think it might have been Pam's wedding shower, but I can't remember. I suspect I was on a a whirlwind tour between moves or a summer visit. I think I lived in Maine at the time.

This picture was taken in Buffalo 1993 at Allison's baptism. Notice that Margaret is missing. She had moved, but we were all still in touch. I'd had one child, and Allison was Pam's first. Combined, we are up to five now.

In around 2003 I got the glasses I wear now, in this next picture. While there have been a few styles between the big red ones and today's, it was today's little glasses that prompted me to begin telling my children that when I'm old and they are thinking that it's time to put me in a home, please get me new glasses first. Today's glasses style are so small, I can't see as much as I could back when hideous big glasses were in style. I would tell the kids, "Before you put me in the home, get me big, luxurious glasses, like we wore in the nineties. I sure could see then. I never even had to turn my head. One glance of the eye and I could zoom right in on anything!"

It was a shocking realization of why old people wear old styles. They know something we don't know!

When my kids found this picture of me and Pam in our big red glasses a few years ago, they loved it! They thought everyone else was walking around in little square metal frames, while I wore big red plastic frames. They were shocked to see Pam in similar glasses. How could we all do that?

In our defense, we were just doing what everyone else did. I got the next picture to prove it:

Here we are in Pam's house as I insist, "We have to take it like the kids do, ourselves!" It looked so silly in the camera screen that we asked Allison, now a 10th grader, to take one of us just standing there. We looked more authentic in this one, though.

But now we don't know were Margaret is. So Margaret, someday you will google yourself and I want this to come up, so:

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of Henrietta near Rochester, of Henrietta near Rochester, of Henrietta near Rochester, of Henrietta near Rochester, of Henrietta near Rochester, of Henrietta near Rochester

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email me!

We need to take a picture.